How to Get a Cat to Like You | Lifehacker

(whistles) – All right, up. Good boy. You don’t have to do anything to get a dog to like you. Some treats help but most dogs will get along with humans right away. We’ve been breeding that into them for all of human history. Cats, however, are very different. While they have been living near us for about 5,000 years, we’ve only been breeding them for about 200. So they’re basically still wild animals. (cat meow) When cats behave very differently from dogs, we misinterpret that as them being mean or unfriendly. A cat doesn’t have to be unfriendly. You just have to do a different kind of work to win them over. (smooth music) Today we’re gonna meet Cosmo the cat. Just like people, every cat is different. If they don’t love you right away, don’t take it too personally. (upbeat music) If you own a dog, you know that they love new smells, and investigating, and rolling around in them, and getting them all over themselves. Cats are the opposite. An unfamiliar scent can turn them off. So if you’re worried about bringing that kind of smell into the cat’s home, you could spray yourself with a pheromone, like Comfort Zone or Feliway. These are a bit expensive. They’re usually for cat owners trying to protect new furniture. But if you’re new furniture and you wanna take this to the next level, you could bring this with you, spray yourself just once or twice on the torso, let it settle in for a couple of minutes and this may help calm a cat. (curious music) Ever notice how a cat gravitates right toward the one allergic person in the room? They go past everyone else who’s trying to attract the cat, going, here kitty, kitty. (smacking kisses) Yeah, don’t do any of that. Spend some time actually ignoring the cat. That gives them space to scope you out on their own terms. (curious music) Let’s try a technique from cat guru, Jackson Galaxy. He calls it, the Michelangelo. The idea is, instead of reaching your hand out like this, which can be intimidating, you let it dangle. You make maybe a loose fist, one finger poking out, a little like a cat nose. Cats don’t see very well up close, that’s why they have whiskers. So, you don’t wanna be shoving this in their face. You’re holding it and waiting for the cat to come to you. It investigates, maybe invites you to scratch. And then you try to. It still may reject you at that point. It might ignore you all together. You just have to be patient and let the cat take the lead. (upbeat music) The safe zone for petting is different for every cat. But Tom McNamee, author of the Inner Life of Cats, recommends that you start with the spots that a mother cat would nuzzle her kittens. That can be behind the ears, or the base of the tail. (upbeat music) All cats are naturally territorial so they’re very conscious of their environment. You don’t wanna be a big imposing creature in their space. Get down on the floor, meet them on their level. Don’t block the exits. If they feel like they can come and go, they’re more likely to come back to you. (curious music) Here’s one I have a lot of trouble with. I love to stare a cat right in the eyes. But that can be counterproductive. That’s the look they give when they’re hunting and you’re doing that to them. Instead, you wanna give a long, slow, blink. That shows that you’re disarming, you’re relaxed, and friendly. You’re not hunting them. (upbeat music) A great modern toy is the laser pointer. I love making a cat chase it around. This is especially good with a new cat. According to cat behaviorist, Mieshelle Nagelschneider, if you get the cat in hunting mode, they’re more comfortable. They forget to be afraid of you. Point the laser under furniture and other hiding spots to better simulate prey that runs and hides from your cat. Then either lead them to a treat or lead them back to you and give them a treat. Let them catch their prey so that they don’t get bored very quickly. (smooth music) Let’s ramp this up beyond treats. If you work with the owner, you can feed the cat its regular meal. That establishes you as a potential provider worthy of trust and affection. One more tip from Jackson Galaxy, is to keep a special jackpot treat that only comes from guests. Cosmo has never had this particular treat before. So, ideally, we get him to associate me with the treat. Adam won’t give you these. These are just special guest treats. Keep them in the house, when people come over, hand them the treat, maybe even before they come indoors. Then every visit from a guest is like a visit from Santa. As long as you understand cats from their perspective, you’ll be a better cat friend. The things they do could be really weird to humans. They definitely don’t behave the same way dogs do. I just learn to go along with it. And let him know that whatever he does, I won’t hurt him. I’m his friend.

100 comments on “How to Get a Cat to Like You | Lifehacker”

  1. Lifehacker says:

    For when it's time to snuggle up and take a nap with your new feline friend:

  2. Shibby120 says:

    Great points

  3. David Carter says:

    This is highly pretentious and is just here for product placement. It’s quite disgusting.

    This is why hipsters shouldn’t make videos.

  4. Hetzerogeneous says:

    It’s like trying to get a girlfriend. XD

  5. Edin Lo6 says:

    Video starts at 0:44

  6. Viego Alvarez says:

    Holy shit dude, eat something else besides soy

  7. Jon Donnelly says:

    cats are assholes

  8. Yokeo The Wolf says:

    I just say skskssksksksksksk

  9. Can we get 500 subs BoIs says:

    Why am i watching this i don’t even have a cat.

  10. thatdutchguy420 says:

    Any tips on training them to be good mouser

  11. Rice Krisbees I'm Not Kris Well Technically says:

    Just give fish to it, that'll tame it

  12. NUKE says:

    "How to Get a Cat to Like You"
    Feed her 😛

    btw I tottaly agree with all the tips in the video!

  13. Moang Her says:

    To much work, I’ll just eat the cat

  14. HotBreath Betty says:

    This isn't a date

  15. Imperial Guard says:

    Shaun White need sponsorship from Gillette shaver

  16. SauerGustavo says:

    For gods sake. Just get a fucking dog. U will be better

  17. Khetz Zarold says:

    Cat are like girl

    Need a super introduction!

  18. Payge says:

    Omg I told my son to ignore the cat so she would like him .. he did it and now the cat sleeps with him 😁
    I’ve finally got my cats to let me scratch them on the chest and tummy ..
    everything you suggested I do just from watching my cats myself and seeing what they responded too ..

  19. i like clips 1000 get some saltyness says:

    I did physical contact but it didn't work he wouldn't eat it

  20. Red Sonja says:

    I don't really do any of this, I do the hand thing and that's about it. I think a lot of it has to to with energy, the vibe you're sending out. I ended up with the perfect cat though, well maybe not perfect, she was very scared of strangers. But in the family she was so chill. If she was sleeping belly up I could go over and put my head on her belly and snuggle her, and she'd wake up and start purring right away. She would never scratch me, not even during play. I could pet her all over, without any issues at all. She never got irritated with me, except for when I was singing, then she would go up to my arm very calmly and bite me very softly, and just hold her mouth there until I stopped singing. I can not sing well btw. She was just so perfect. Half house cat and half oriental shorthair. And whenever I see a cat outside I want to pet it, so I sit down and stretch my hand out, and they start purring and rubbing up against me. I freaking love cats so much.

  21. Kool Kids Klub says:

    Torture it

  22. Kosquo says:

    Treat dogs like pets.
    Treat cats like frightened, homeless orphans

  23. Connor Raabe says:

    The "guest treats" tip blew my mind

  24. Hilljoona says:

    And I have a better one :
    How to get your child like you… Or your wife… Or your dog… Or maybe even your grandma : Being nice and patient.

  25. DWN-024 Shadow Man says:

    Thanks for this tips! I'm going to implement them with my bfs kitten, it's a female and I'm struggling to get it's attention and she's scared of me most of the time. I'm that person always chasing her (literally 😂)

  26. Felipe NS says:

    This cat educated its human very well

  27. Pseudo Nym says:

    Think I'll just wait a thousand years for less shitty cats to be bred rather than bother with this nonsense.

  28. Ekip c’est la secte petasse says:

    Cats are the best

  29. 50 subs with no videos says:

    Once u saw my cat he just liked me

  30. Orion Stevens says:

    I don't know about you, but it's kinda hard to get my cats away from me, they kinda act like dogs

  31. Francine Frensky says:

    me: i want to watch a video on how to make cats like me!
    me to me: you know damn well you're gonna ignore everything in this video and go try to run up to any cat and try to smother it with your hugs

  32. John Smith says:

    And this is why dogs will always be better than cats. If you're going to feed something and pick up it's poop for the next 10-15 years the least it could do is show you some love.

  33. Horror says:

    How to win my cats affection
    -Just pet her and give her a treat and then you are her best friend

  34. Beowulf says:

    My cat doesen't like dummy petting but when she's sleeping she loves it
    She's a female res cat
    Also my cat know what laser pointer is when i point my laser pointer somewhere she instantly look's that way

  35. Corvus Corax says:

    Cats rock 😸

  36. Najeeb Shah says:

    So basically a cat is a human female

  37. 1manuscriptman says:

    Cats are intuitive creatures. If you approach them in that fashion, you get along with them great.

  38. spaghetti says:

    My cousin's cat miscarried next to me ;_;
    It made a mess and made my jacket dirty but I guess she is at least okay now
    I guess cats love fluffy jackets

  39. Hero4fun says:

    So dogs are Man (easy to get) and cats are woman (hard to get).

  40. Michael Ward says:

    I got my cat to like me by picking him up, turning him around so I could see his backside, lifting up his tail…AND LICKING HIS BUNGHOLE. He won't leave me alone now. What do I do?

  41. Pizza The Hutt says:

    Just thinking if this tutorial will work on the ladies 😁

  42. John Rotten says:

    Big thing with cats is a very calm and relaxing personality.

  43. bilmemneisim At Roblox says:

    My cat was sitting next to me when i was watching this he looked at the screen meowed than walked away

  44. UnknownDarkDragon says:

    i got cat class and i got cat style. meow!

  45. Ontah Mano says:

    by ksksksksksks? maybe

  46. skltn_hc says:

    This video confirms that I am, in fact, a cat

  47. Bernard Moore says:

    This works with women too. 👍

  48. D. R. JONES says:

    feed the little sod – something that it likes -then your home belongs to them

  49. James Heazlewood says:

    This is actually the best cat behaviour video I've ever seen. Even better than the rspca cat behaviour guide.

  50. ithinkimcrazyhehehe says:

    Ok now tell how to live a feral cat!?

  51. Sham • says:

    -How to get a cat to like you?

  52. Joshua Bales says:

    you're gay

  53. timeroller says:

    If only I wasn't allergic to cats

  54. F.B.I says:

    My cat died.

  55. Spritz says:

    Sorry for the arrogance, but… I've been doing so much right! I am happy ^^

  56. DressedRunner says:

    I don't even have a cat

  57. Johnny Barger says:

    Jackson is a butt pirate

  58. Rinke DW says:

    Wait. I have to feed my cat?

  59. Wakusa says:

    so cats are just girls? xD

  60. Joe Lazarus says:

    So what jazz album you recommend my cat to listen to?

  61. S Adam says:

    Ginger Bradwoto

  62. Cat Wrangler says:

    My cats do not interact with the staff.

  63. Mara Ramirez says:

    My cat is weird. She LOVESS belly rubs

  64. Anakin Crywalker says:

    That’s the thing. Dog’s make better friends. They always make you feel good cause they’re always happy to see you. Granted, not all cats are snooty, but trying to befriend a lot of them is like trying to get to know someone who’s only nice to you when they feel like it. DOGS FTW💯💯💯

  65. KeiFresh says:

    Wait, I’m supposed to feed this mf?!?

  66. Jenna_Gem YTOfficial says:


    As a REALLY allergic to cat person (and ex-cat lover) I approve. It is so true and even if y'all ignore the cat the odds it goes to the allergic person is still high since that person will completely avoid any contact with the cat. It'll make the cat envious and maybe wonder why or what causes you this. Result: The cat will go by itself meet sais allergic/ignoring human and rub against it to mark his territory as if you were an object now part of the house in hope to get a reaction.

  67. דוד בוחניק says:

    Your voice make me shell

  68. No Wallet says:

    When we first got our cat I hated it and was mean to it. Now we are best buds.

  69. No Wallet says:

    I kinda want to stare at my cat now.

  70. Ameli a says:

    Almost every cat i meet likes me right away
    I was raised with two cats
    Now i have five of them
    My family just calls me The Cat Mother

  71. Yeah says:

    So they're tsunderes

  72. HappyChair Sabel says:

    give a cat treats, you have a friend for life!!!

  73. Sunandan Mahapatra says:

    my cat is watching this and staring at me

  74. StLennyBruce says:

    I really enjoy the galaxy guy's cat stuff, but this guy is great, too.

  75. David Johansson says:

    Hmm. Useful video. Do you also know how to charm a Homo sapien?

  76. Mc Sauce says:

    So you’re suggesting earning a cats respect ? Get a dog. More loyal.

  77. catsare cute135 says:

    what breed is at 1:09?

  78. quadra privat says:

    please explain this to me: why when i touch the base of the tail all cats i know raise immediatly the butt? like pneumatic citroen 1970 DS suspension? thanks

  79. quadra privat says:

    i actually feel more like a cat than an human, i don't trust humans, i don't like dogs expansiveness. i like to rest, to have escapes, to hunt but i want my personal space. don't stare at me!

  80. Masa Ikramul Haq says:

    L'Oréal – You worth it

    Cat Lovers – They worth it


  81. Ms.Summer Love says:

    This video should be titled “How to get a girlfriend”🤣🤣🤣jk

  82. TheFlamingCookie says:

    I have 2 cats one is like
    I love u and constantly follows me around the other is like
    Lol f you p*ss off human and doesnt even hiss it just runs or whacks at me XD

  83. GrandDan0is says:

    This is how I Pick up women… only my cologne is not feromon, but chloroform.

  84. Ibra Katt says:

    Hi, i really love your cat videosin your channel. I also havea channel and want to expose it more from people. It would be nice if you can check it out and leave a like and comment . My cats are very special and have their own amazing things they do.

  85. irabies says:

    this video warmed my heart,, he like made a friend:(((( wholesome and full of love

  86. DerAnanasKing says:

    open consol commands, type

  87. Justwantahover says:

    0:16 The domestic cat was miniaturised by humans that they thought went back 3,000 years but they found a miniature (mature) cat bones with human bones, that was like 9,000 years old. I think the domestic cat has been with humans for way more than 200 years. (Source: Scientific American magazine).

  88. Yahya Khawaja says:

    I have a cat
    And I have trouble feeding him
    Like really trouble
    I don't keep him inside so his food bowl is on the floor
    So I put 2 spoons for him
    First spoon I distract him with whatever and I out it in the bowl
    He starts eating
    So I want to put the second one
    I try to put it when he raises his head
    But no
    He hits it and it goes every were
    He thinks I want to take his food
    Like he puts his paw in the middle of the spoon and makes it go every were

  89. Omar Tricoche says:

    All you could do with this is start hating cats when this doesn’t work

  90. MeliRDub Animates says:

    The Bob Ross of cats.

  91. Sharrieff Vincent says:

    I love my cat he was like a human with a dog mentality I whipped his ass one good time and never ever had a problem after that. I can rub his belly every time I came home he'd jump on the hood of my truck and greet me and he loved all my friends he was amazing cat. Even though he got addicted to Cat Nip lol he used to bring home iguanas lizards and one time a bird its like he gave me a gift. God I love my Cat.

  92. wisnu yogapraditya says:

    Cats don't like people, cats owned people

  93. Terminator_3773 says:

    Tip 9


  94. TF2 Scout YT says:

    Title says cat
    starts with dogs
    Wait what?


  95. Iraia Haywood says:

    2.48 me trying my hardest to have a girl notice me 😂

  96. Xin Jie Lim says:

    You say dogs like humans naturally, but dogs hate me for whatever reason and cats like me for no reason. Am I not a human? Lol

  97. mzar2002 says:

    That actually scared me.

  98. Jimmy Novakin says:

    Instructions unclear, cat tried to bang me.

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